ZaZa’s Legacy – Grief in Men Survey
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ZaZa’s Legacy – Choking Prevention Australia

Grief in Men Survey

Thank you for taking the time to complete this survey.

This survey explores men’s experiences of grief. Some questions may bring up strong emotions or memories. Please take care of yourself as you answer and know that you can stop at any time.

If at any point you feel distressed or overwhelmed, please reach out for support. Relevant services are listed below.

Your responses will remain confidential and de-identified. The results will be used only to help identify current gaps in support for men experiencing grief and loss.

Your voice matters, and we value your contribution.

1. What did grief look like for you when no one else was around?
2. Did you feel pressure to “be strong”? How did that affect you?
3. In the early days of your loss, what feelings were most present? (Select any that apply)
4. Growing up, what were you taught about how men should deal with grief, pain or loss?
5. Did it ever feel like others had more space to grieve than you did?
6. Were there moments you wanted to fall apart but didn’t feel you could?
7. Where did you go — mentally or physically — when grief felt too heavy?
8. Has anyone close to you seen you cry?
9. What does “strength” mean to you now?
10. Has speaking up (or staying quiet) made grief easier or harder for you?
11. How do you balance your own grief with being there for others?
12. What do you want other grieving men to know?
13. What do you hope younger men — sons, brothers, mates — learn about emotions and loss that you weren’t taught?

Support Services

If completing this survey has been difficult, we encourage you to reach out for support:

  • Lifeline – 13 11 14 (24/7 crisis support)
  • Men’s Line Australia – 1300 78 99 78 (support for men, 24/7)
  • Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636 (24/7 mental health support)
  • Griefline – 1300 845 745 (grief and loss support)
If you require immediate support and you feel at risk, please call 000.